You are the leading lady of your own life. You deserve to play the lead role in your life story. Life’s too short to play small with your talents. You have it in you to reclaim your primal greatness and just – succeed.

The marketplace will give you the delusion that you are not good enough. It will give you reasons for limiting and crippling your potential to be the higher you. You carry an excellence badge on your shoulder. Do not succumb to mediocrity and be limitless in practicing your daily habits towards the true you – the woman you are made to be!

Yet, we are stuck at some limitations. Our excuses, fears, and doubts – these are thieves and seducers.

7 things that hinder our leadership development journey:

1. NOT WANTING TO KNOW EVERY DETAIL

If you kick butt in your job and get more responsibility, you will have less time and delegate some things. For some, it’s a little daunting task – to let things out of your control and not the way you want them. Yet, this kind of change is necessary if you want to level up your game.

2. OUTGROW

Sometimes when we grow, we can outgrow the people in our lives. One or two people might be left out, and you have to be okay with that if you really want to go after whatever dream God has put in your heart! 

Even in relationships! You dive into personal development, unlocking your confidence, becoming more bold and unapologetic. Yet, the person you’re dating is not on the same trajectory of personal growth as you are and the two of you might end up really different.

Yes, the thought of losing close friends as a result of your growth can be scary.

But did you know, that trees are planted farther to allow them to retain their natural growth? 

The same goes with people, it’s okay to space a little bit to give yourself some pruning.

3. JUDGMENT

Sometimes women are perceived as being bossy when they are simply being bold.

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Listen to this episode here, where we talked about being judged as a woman while doing some bolder things than normal. 

“Backlash avoidance”. It is holding ourselves back from success in order to avoid being labeled and criticized in our character and personality. Sometimes, you have the kindest, purest, sweetest intentions, and yet as soon as you pucker up the courage to speak your mind, you’re labeled as bossy. It’s a society’s mindset and truly inevitable.

People will judge – no matter what. You’ll be judged if you fail, you’ll be judged if you succeed and you’ll be judged if you do or don’t. People are judgy! It’s unfortunate, but you can’t let someone else’s small-minded opinion of you keep you from reaching out and being you and changing lives because of it. Don’t let this stop you.

Also, If you’re judged as being bold, take this as a mini-challenge to be as kind and genuine. No one ever said we shouldn’t be kind, so that’s a win-win in our books.

4. STEPPING OUTSIDE

Example: A woman not wanting to make more money than their spouse! I can relate because I am married, too. Drew (my husband) and I have decided to take on life together, with him being the leader. He leads me and he will lead our future family. But that doesn’t mean I don’t speak my mind. At the end of the day, decisions are his and the keyword is teamwork. 

This kind of scenario is common for women to hesitate at the thought of making more money than their spouse. Also, a lot of men cringe at that idea and need to do their own personal work there too, but this applies to other areas.

Your true friends and family should be cheering for your success even if everything in their life seems to be crumbling. 

If they aren’t, that’s on them. Jealousy is real for many people and it never encourages us to celebrate for our friends. But don’t let a lack of support or hesitancy keep you from doing what you’re capable of.

5. SPOTLIGHT AND ATTENTION

Maybe you’re afraid of the spotlight and extra attention. Most people aren’t stage-ready, so if that’s holding you back you can definitely practice into that just like everyone else.

6. CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCE

In the years of your childhood, some experiences deter you from going after your dreams, and that’s where you want to seek help to process that, come to terms with it, and then develop the skills that can keep those childhood experiences from unfairly holding you back. Seek professionals to address it from getting it in your way. 

7. IMPOSTOR SYNDROME

You can feel undeserving or unqualified. You see other people and compare yourself. Then you asked yourself, who am I to be in this role compared to her? What if they don’t think that I deserve this? What if they will think I’m a fraud?

GIRL, YOU ARE WORTHY!

Aside from God, only we know our many mistakes, so naturally, our perception of ourselves is to think of one million reasons why we can’t do something and only see other people’s abilities and reasons why they can do something. 

With imposter syndrome you just have to discipline your mind to remember that no one has it all together, everyone starts somewhere, everyone has dirty laundry and weaknesses and pitfalls, and where you have weaknesses come with strengths.

When you identify even one negative trait, you need to practice avoiding them. Shaking off these kinds of fears will put you out there. You’ll be courageous! 

So once you will lead a team, you’ll be able to create an empowering culture and allow your team to be at their best, because you conquered your fears in the first place.

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You have all the potential you need, even if you don’t feel it. No one’s path of progress is linear, these fears above mentioned with being successful are causing you to halt those dreams. The success journey gives you the relatable experience to share with others – the story of common struggles and overcoming obstacles.

Listen to the full episode here:

Take time to ask yourself these questions and let me know in the comments below.

What’s your definition of success? And what makes success daunting for you?

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